My In/Out List For 2023

daily musings
Written By Nathaly Sanguino

TL;DR: Stop bullying yourself into creating unsustainable resolutions every new year; instead, look at things in a holistic framework of what’s in or out.

Each January, a newfound (read: routine) pressure to become a completely new person on January 2nd emerges from the depths of an exhausted Q4 gal. So often, the “new year, new me” mentality leads us to overload our system with futile goals and resolutions. However, this year I invite us to look past the overcrowded gym and unsustainable diets we tell ourselves we’ll keep and look within instead.

Let me explain how. Start by listing what you want to keep or cultivate this year and what you want to remove or stop. That is the habits, trends, and thought patterns that are in, and those that gotta go out.

What’s In

  • Waking up without an alarm

  • Eating slowly

  • Asking questions to listen not speak

  • People you can be silent around & not feel awk.

  • Praying

  • Natural hair

  • Modest, classy yet sexy style

  • Artisanal products

  • Speaking kind yet firmly to yourself

  • Discipline when motivation is lacking

  • Being an active participant in life

  • Actually writing down good ideas instead of brushing them off

  • Nourishing conversations

  • Passionate relationships

  • Vocalizing your needs/wants

  • Community

  • Being bold

What’s out

  • Rushing in the morning

  • Feeling food guilt

  • Attention seekers

  • Blaming astrological signs for your behavior

  • Clubbing

  • Alcohol beverages found in a can

  • Trendy clothes from Amazon/SHEIN (don’t give in to temptation)

  • Cringy TikTok trends

  • Coddling yourself

  • Complaining

  • Mindless pleasantries you don’t want to have

  • Lying to make someone feel better (stroking egos)

  • Individualism

  • Girl boss / Miss Independent “I don’t need no man” ideology

  • High-stress workouts

What’s on your in/out list for 2023?

Nathaly Sanguino